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I have lived with anxiety my whole life. Not the debilitating kind, more the slow burn, the constant hyper-vigilant kind. Always on high alert, high energy, moving a hundred miles an hour to stay in front of whatever my mind thought was chasing me. 

Turns out nothing was chasing me.

My anxiety stems from childhood trauma and a childhood filled with uncertainty. And no, this isn’t about blaming my parents, I believe they were doing the best they could at the time. 

What it is about, is taking responsibility for reparenting and caring for myself and making my needs and myself a priority. It’s about showing up for me when I need me most. It’s about showing myself the same compassion and kindness I would a loved one. 

How often do you find yourself saying negative things to yourself? 

I’m guessing everyday. Most of us do. 

Our minds are working to protect us 24/7 and so they are constantly thinking and creating stories and pulling memories to relate to current events. What happens over time is we get caught up in the stories, the thinking and the memories and that is what creates our anxiety and depression. We abandon ourselves and start living in the future or in the past, and forget to come home to ourselves.

I spent years reading books on spiritual teachings, how to forgive, how to be happy, how to love, love languages, attachment styles, emotional blockages and many more.

Here’s what I found: Most, if not all, of the books refer to turning inward (self-awareness and self-discovery) and being present for yourself (self-acceptance and self-love).

So I gave it a whirl, because why not, I’ve tried everything else, including therapy.

To my surprise, when I started dedicating 20-30 minutes to myself everyday, it changed my life. Makes me tear up thinking about the overwhelming love I felt when I stopped running from myself and started turning inward. I committed to showing up for myself by setting aside 20-30 minutes every morning, without fail. I needed to know I cared enough to take the time to make myself a priority. 

Here’s what happened.

I found love. I found inner peace. I felt connected to everything, literally everything. I felt amazing! People started saying to me, what are you doing? You seem calm and peaceful and happy. The words “calm and peaceful” kept coming up and I thought, OMG! I feel it and they can see it. 

I guess what I’m saying is inner peace and true happiness can be found within each of us, when we dedicate and commit time to showing ourselves love and compassion. When we show up everyday it says we care and we are here and we aren’t going anywhere. It says, we will always be here for ourselves. It says “I love you.”

What did I do in those 20-30 minutes that made such a difference?

First, I showed up every day! 

Second, I made a daily effort to be self-aware and more mindful. I became more aware of my thoughts, my emotions, my feelings, my words, my actions. I committed to show up for myself every single day, and the results were amazing. I discovered a love I have never known before. And there was so much more… I began to accept and trust myself, creating a beautiful sense of inner peace and calm.

Third, I started doing some kind of exercise every single day. It doesn’t have to be going to the gym, it can be a 10 minute walk/hike, yoga, in-home YouTube video for legs or arms, whatever works for you on that day. Just do something that gets you and your body moving.

Could it really be that simple?

Yes! It changed my life, and the way I thought about myself. And it can change your life too!

How do you go about building a healthy relationship with yourself?

• Make a commitment to yourself to show up for yourself every day. Try the 21 day Mindfulness Challenge.

• Dedicate 10-20 minutes of your time for yourself, uninterrupted in a quiet space. Try one of my Meditations.

• Be consistent! You are so worth it!

Need help getting started?

I hear you and I gotcha! 

Click on the resources tab where you’ll find all kinds of great resources to help you get started on the path to finding a love you’ve never known before.

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In Gratitude,

Cassie